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I am a "stay at home mom", I know people who are "work at home moms" and people who are "work outside of the home moms." No matter what label you put on us we are all moms. One is not better than the other, one doesn't do more work than the other (just a different kind of work), one isn't superior to the rest. I sometimes feel like I am living in that movie "Groundhog's Day" (which is probably true for a lot of people), each day is the same thing which more than not contains thousands of whines all day long, followed by refilling of juice cups, replacing crackers or coloring. Lately I have been feeling burnt. "You're a stay at home mom what do you have to be burnt about? I would give anything to be a stay at home mom?" Really, this comment ticks me off. I am not a "stay at home person." A stay at home person, yes I am totally jealous of this person, at any given hour, minute, second they can do as they please, however a stay at home mom, not so much. It's not a vacation staying home, it's not easy, I am constantly being pulled in one direction or the other and when I finally get a second to myself someone wants juice. It has been a blessing to stay home with my kids and see all their firsts, to be the one who cared for them when they were so little and I wouldn't change a thing. We sacrificed so this could happen and it was worth every penny.
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TOTALLY need to support each other. We must band together instead of being against each other for one stupid reason or another. I've been on both sides of the coin and neither one is a walk in the park, I assure you!
I like this post... : )
All this nipping at one another comes down to three things: insecurity, guilt, and jealousy.
I've found that one's attitude towards the "other side of the fence" is directly related to how happy they are with their own choices.
There will always be struggles no matter what you do (or don't do), but if you ultimately feel happy and fulfilled... or even BLESSED to be doing what you're doing, then who cares what anyone else does. That's my attitude anyways.
Great post!
I've been a stay at home mom for 17 years.I have never got a positive feed back from it. I hear it must be lucky to sit at home and watch tv all day. so on and so on. I do everything around the house and more.
I completely agree... I am not a mom yet, but I plan on staying home with our children and I know it is not an easy job. (I won't truely know the depths of it until I am in the thick of it, but you know what I mean.)
Oh wow. A SAHM is never thanked, appreciated, or gets a break. You are working 24/7 and never get a "change of scenery", naps, or quiet time. You are always at work and always on call. I would LOVE to be a SAHM, but we need the 2nd income. I also realize that SAHMs often get the "you're not busy, can you do this?" or "You've been home all day, why are you tired?" Whatever!! I got that while on maternity leave and it gave me a WHOLE new appreciation for a SAHM.
I work outside of the home and so I get a change of scenery, I'm appreciated at my away from home job, and I even get a paycheck! When I get my daughter from daycare, she has been well taken care of, fed, played her little heart out, and is SO HAPPY to see me. I enjoy every waking second with her, and often watch her while she sleeps. I think I have a pretty good life, but I would love to spend more time with her.
All moms are special, hardworking, and deserve a LOT of respect. Our #1 job is our kids and family and we often neglect ourselves.
I vote for free massages for all moms!
(that was a huge ramble, huh)
Go, girl! I agree. We're all mom's. We are all awesome!! Especially you and your blog :)
I so agree with you! I think you can also replace the word "mom" with "woman." Women need to be supportive of each other's choices.
Amen! I'm a teacher & the summers always remind me to appreciate ALL moms. We all work, just in different ways!
I totally understand. I have the best of both worlds I guess. I work part time and stay home the rest of the time. And boy are there some days that I enjoy going to work! And I really think that work is easier then staying home and we only have one kid! And I love her to pieces...but sometimes I need time to do things I need to do :)
As a WOHM I totally think SAHM's RAWK...I love my children, but I'm not sure if I would be able to handle the 24/7 demands they bring. Working seems to give me the balance I need (and helps with my sanity too ;o)
amen
amen
amen
we are all just doing the best be can no matter what, striving to be the best moms, the best significant other, the best coworker whatever, just doing the best we can.
I agree!
I reckon the work of a stay at home mum is as hectic, if not more, than any other job. I'm not a mum myself but my mum was a stay-at-home mum and what with the cooking, cleaning, helping with our studies, grocery shopping....her day was tiring and didn't end until late in the evening. So I do know it's no picnic!
I love your last line...no matter what kind of mom you are, it can be a struggle and support is needed.
I just started reading this book (I was a really good mom before I had kids) which is entertaining but also is completely honest about how hard this job is...
Women, I tell ya'. lol!!! I've seen some of this too, not sure why it's proving to be so trendy.
Hi, my name is Alisha...and I am a Mom. hee hee!
lmao! i just noticed the "i wipe my own butt"
i find those people, the ones that argue, think they are better, were 'those' people back in high school. Hey, ladies, guess what? you're mommies, time to grow the $)^& up.
I didn't play those games back then and I stay away from them now. :)
besides, ive been a WOHM a WAHM and a SAHM and they are all great in there own way and hard in there own way.
That is so wrong that moms criticize moms...although, I get it in real life (intentionally or not) and it sucks. The grass will always be greener.
I just posted about my 3 weeks home so far and how I want it both ways....uggh. You do get burned out...with both!
Amen sister.
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Staying home with the kids can suck ass sometimes. I am sure working can suck ass too.
Moms should stick together no matter the situation they are in. the. end.
Amen to that, sister. Stop tearing one another down, and start holding up your fellow mommas. Being a mom is hard, period!
Well said!
I don't get why women can't just band together and be moms and realize everyone's life has different needs. No one is better than the other.
Ugh.
And I'm a SAHM and I know I feel burnt. It is hard to explain to someone who doesn't do it what it is like. And I had a friend who did both -- stayed at home and then went back to work and she thought staying at home was harder because you just weren't in control of your day at all. : )
I wipe butts all day long, too.
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I wipe my own butt.